|
5 Tips for Successful Grandparenting
Building on the cherished connection between grandparents and grandchildren is a life-long privilege. As grandchildren grow and mature the role grandparents play in the lives of their grandchildren changes but the principals remain true at any age. ...
7 Secrets to Having a Financially Healthy Family
How many times have you replied "We don't have the money for that" when your child asks you to buy him something? His innocent reply is "Get some from the machine or the bank". You think to yourself, "If only it were that easy". Managing money is a...
Full Disclosure
Direct Answers - Column for the week of April 21, 2003
I hope you can talk me out of this bad feeling. I watched the Michael Jackson program where he was talking about how he was treated by his father. I had hushed the bad memories to the back...
Online Dating Secrets For Single Men
There is no need for single men to be lonely. Online dating has an infinite supply of women eager to meet men!!
Looking To Meet Women?
Craving Female Company?
Well, you’ve come to the right place! The internet is an ENDLESS supply of...
Parental Hostility: What Will This Bring To Your Children's Life?
One of the most important factors influencing kids' adjustments to their parents' separation or divorce is the level of parental hostility. How bad or how well children go through the divorce depends on how the situation is handled. To give you...
|
|
| |
|
|
|
|
|
|
"Divorce Reasons; What Constitutes A Viable Reason For Thinking About Or Wanting A Divorce?"
According to the Center for Disease Control's National Vital Statistics Report of 2002, 50% of first marriages ended in divorce and 60% of remarriages end in divorce. But, the Center for Disease Control also found that 96% of Americans express a personal desire for marriage, and almost three-quarters of Americans believe marriage is a life long commitment.
I imagine that there are somewhat similar statistics worldwide.
With these kinds of statistics, its easy to see how complex it can be when people think they want a divorce, they have difficulty identifying how a truly viable divorce reason might be defined. Wanting happiness through marriage and wrestling with what may seem an inevitable outcome (divorce), can be emotionally and mentally challenging.
After all, it is human nature to want to feel nurtured and secure, no matter where you live!
So, if you're thinking about getting a divorce, what are truly viable reasons for actually getting a divorce?
Each government has different laws defining the difference between 'fault' and 'no-fault' divorce reasons that have enough merit that allow for the divorce to be granted.
While it makes sense for you to keep this in mind when deciding whether or not to get a divorce because there may be financial considerations to think of, you should first focus on defining your own emotional or "personal" divorce reasons, regardless of what the local governing body says.
If you ask 100 people how they define viable reasons for wanting a divorce, you'll most likely get 100 different answers because they'll answer you from their perspective, not yours.
Sure, there may be similarities to the way you feel in some of those answers about 'real' divorce reasons, you may even agree with some. But, the real answers to this question can only come from you. You have to figure out what reason or reasons would be viable in your mind in order to actually go through your decision about getting a divorce or staying married.
Some reasons that people give for getting a divorce, or wanting a divorce, are purely selfish and have no substance. An example of a reason for wanting a divorce that has no substance is not liking the fact that your spouse has constant unfounded jealousy. There is a deeper problem that exists here, and in the case of this example, it could be that the spouse who constantly feels jealousy has a confidence problem or some
sort of 'fear of loss'. Whatever the case, the divorce reason in this example clearly isn't viable and should relatively easy to fix.
Often times when people give 'surface' or flimsy reasons for wanting a divorce, they really have much deeper feelings about something and they're just using the shallow divorce reason as an avoidance of some kind. Or, they give these 'foundation-less' reasons for wanting a divorce because they actually aren't aware that there are other deeper rooted reasons that are the cause of the way they feel now.
Common reasons that cause people to think about or want to get a divorce:
*Couple has conflicting personal beliefs
*Couple’s marital satisfaction decreases
*Desertion
*Adultery
*Cruel treatment
*Bigamy
*Imprisonment
*Spousal Indignities
*Institutionalization
*Irretrievable Breakdown of some kind
Of course, you should add your own reasons to the list for wanting a divorce, better yet, make your own list. Solid divorce reasons for wanting or going through a divorce usually come from some sort of occurrence, behavioral pattern, and/or change in the viewpoint of the marriage itself.
In order to really make a smart decision, you should first list the reasons that you have for wanting a divorce, then examine those divorce reasons for true viability. Then come back to it that list in a day or so.
Chances are you will be able to scratch a few of those reasons for wanting a divorce off the list because they were identified purely from an emotional viewpoint rather than logic.
If you are thinking about getting a divorce, and haven't clearly identified what reasons you have for feeling the way you do, you'll be doing yourself a 'dis-service' if you act without carefully examining the viability each designated divorce reason. Everyone has their own reasons for wanting a divorce, make sure that you are certain that your reasons are truthfully viable to you before you act on them.
Karl Augustine Deciding on Divorce
Divorce reasons
About the Author
Author of "A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce", the eBook recommended by counselors to thier clients. Proven "Actions Items" to help you decide! http://www.deciding-on-divorce.com
|
|
|
|
|
| Divorce - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia |
| Divorce or dissolution of marriage is the ending of a marriage before the death of either spouse. It can be contrasted with an annulment, which is a declaration that a marriage is void, though the ... |
| en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce DivorceNet - Divorce Net: Family Law Information, Solutions, News and ... |
  |
| MedlinePlus: Divorce |
| Divorce ... Coping; Divorce - Talking about Fears and Concerns (American Academy of Pediatrics) Divorce Matters: |
| www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/divorce.html |
  |
| The Divorce Support Page: Divorce, Child Custody, Alimony, Support ... |
| a support site for people experiencing, divorce, dissolution, separation, custody, alimony ... DivorceSupport.com - helping people through the divorce process since 1997. The Divorce Support ... |
| www.divorcesupport.com 2/10/2007 |
  |
| Divorce |
| The New York State Unified Court System offers free instruction booklets and forms for people starting a divorce. Before you use the booklets and forms , we strongly suggest that you give serious ... |
| www.courts.state.ny.us/litigants/divorce/index.shtml |
  |
| Topic: Marriage & Divorce |
| Featured information for the public on marriage and divorce. ... press releases Do Opposites Attract Or Do Birds of a Feather Flock Together? (02/13/05) |
| www.apa.org/topics/topicdivorce.html |
  |
| Divorce - Wex |
| divorce law: an overview. There are two types of divorce-- absolute and limited. An absolute divorce, (also called a "divorce a vinculo matrimonii" is a judicial termination of a marriage based on ... |
| www.law.cornell.edu/wex/index.php/Divorce |
  |
| Relationships Breakups/Divorce |
| Leave Strong Kristin Armstrong opens up about coping ... |
| www.oprah.com/relationships/subsection_landing.jhtml?section=Breakups/Divorce&subsection=B... Divorce Busting® - Solve Marriage Problems, Save My Marriage, Save ... |
  |
| Divorce Source: a legal resource for divorce, custody, alimony, and ... |
| A state specific divorce web site providing information and referrals for people facing and ... Start Your Divorce On-line Today ! Save time, money, and eliminate stress. We have several options ... |
| www.divorcesource.com |
  |
| ResultsN C H S - FASTATS - Marriage and Divorce |
| Marriage and Divorce (Data are for U.S. for year indicated) Number of marriages: 2,230,000. Marriage rate: 7.5 per 1,000 total population |
| www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/divorce.htm |
  |
| Divorce Central Home Page |
| Links to divorce-related resources, organized by state, with an archive of articles and interviews. |
| www.divorcecentral.com |
  |
| DivorceNet - Planning Divorce |
| People planning divorce often have serious misconceptions about the law. Avoid these misconceptions ... Considering Divorce | Planning Divorce | Filing & Litigation | After Divorce. People planning ... |
| www.divorcenet.com/planning |
  |
| Online Divorce in Washington - Qualification Test for Uncontested ... |
| Washington Divorce Online is an affordable service to prepare Washington State divorce forms ... Step 2: Register with Washington Divorce Online and pay the processing fee. |
| www.washingtondivorceonline.com/asp/qualification-test.asp |
  |
| Yahoo! Groups : Directory : Divorce |
| Directory : Divorce ... Save Indian Family is a strong team of dedicated families comprising of victims of "misuse of 498a ... |
| dir.groups.yahoo.com/dir/Romance___Relationships/Relationships/Divorce 2/10/2007 |
  |
| Divorce and remarriage: Many different religious viewpoints" |
| Divorce and remarriage: many different religious viewpoints ... MENU: DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE: MANY DIFFERENT RELIGIOUS VIEWS. Click Here to Visit our Sponsors. |
| www.religioustolerance.org/chr_divo.htm |
  |
| Britney Spears divorcing Kevin Federline - Celebrity News - MSNBC ... |
| Britney Spears has reportedly filed for divorce from rapper-dancer Kevin Federline. ... Britney Spears divorcing Kevin Federline Cites irreconcilable differences; she seeks custody of ... |
| www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15609347 |
  |
| Judaism 101: Divorce |
| Learn about the Jewish attitude toward divorce and the procedures involved in Jewish divorce. ... Jewish Attitude Toward Divorce. Judaism recognized the concept of "no-fault" divorce thousands of ... |
| www.jewfaq.org/divorce.htm |
  |
| Divorce Support - State Divorce Laws |
| Complete overview of divorce laws for people considering a divorce or filing a divorce with issues ... State Divorce Laws. Divorce (or Dissolution of Marriage) is primarily governed by state specific ... |
| www.divorcesupport.com/divorce/State-Divorce-Laws-403.html |
  |
| DivorceMag: Articles and Information on Divorce and Separation |
| Find a divorce lawyer, mediator, accountant, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, therapist and more... Click Here to Advertise With Us |
| www.divorcemag.com/articles |
  |